7 Ways to Support Your Child When They Don’t Want to Leave

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Heading off to a new and unfamiliar location (such as a nursery school) can represent a challenging situation for some children. However, there are many ways in which parents can provide a bit of much-needed support so that their child will face new challenges with their head held high. Let us take a look at seven practical recommendations to keep in mind. 

#1 Slow Steps 

When possible, provide your child with the opportunity to explore new situations at an incremental pace. For instance, visit the school that he or she will be attending in order to build up a sense of familiarity. 

#2 The Use of Transitional Objects 

As this article states, transitional objects are excellent ways to help a child feel relaxed while he or she is away from home. Items such as jewellery, pictures and toys will also remind them that home is never far off. 

#3 Storytelling 

Children will often develop their own narratives when being exposed to unfamiliar settings. Unfortunately, these narratives can sometimes be frightening. Another useful approach involves telling a story that enables them to view the experience from a different perspective. You could even create a short book of pictures so that the child can experience how a cartoon character deals with such changes in a positive manner. 

#4 Freedom of Choice 

Let’s also remember that there may be times when a child is having a great deal of fun at a specific location (such as when on a playdate) and does not want to leave. As opposed to simply removing them from this environment, it could be wiser to provide a number of departure options so that he or she feels in control. Examples include leaving through a certain entrance or having the child come up with a “code word” that signals when it is time to go. 

#5 Perceived Confidence 

Parents can often feel sad when their child begins to enter into new environments; as it signals that they are already beginning to grow up. Unfortunately, children can easily pick up on these emotions and it can make the transitional process more difficult. It is better to project confidence and enthusiasm so that your little one becomes eager for what is in store. 

#6 The Use of a “Goodbye Ritual” 

Another interesting approach involves the use of a “goodbye ritual” when the child is about to leave. Examples include secret handshakes, a fun game or even a series of hugs. These will often help to ease any anxiety that may otherwise be present. The use of modern observational software packages like www.educater.co.uk/software/eyfs-tracking can provide an additional level of insight in terms of which behaviours provide the most positive results. 

#7 Time for Preparation 

Do not rush your child when preparing to head off to a new location or experience. Allowing them plenty of time to prepare will likewise lower levels of perceived stress. This approach will also allow them to ask any questions that they may have about the upcoming event.